I have created this website as a last resort, and decided to go public with this issue because private diplomacy has not worked. Chipo Siamafuwa is from Kafue, Zambia, and is a 7th Day Adventist. She is an immigrant to Canada, arriving in Canada on Feb 15, 2018, and is residing in Fort McMurray. and is employed at Bethel Happy Day Care. I had been supporting her financially for three years while she was still in Zambia awaiting to come to Canada, and after the expense of hiring an immigration agency and the cost of the trip and other expenses, and now that she has Canadian citizenship and a healthy son, then to hell with me. She has no further need for me so she dumps me but stays in Canada, after we agreed that we return to Zambia where I was making provisions for her here. I met with her mother in Kafue who automatically took the position against me. 

The following are chat messages from Jan 13, 2024:  

In this chat session she is clearly desiring to further use me to get sperm, but refuses to have me in her life any more, nor wants me as the father to my own children. Yet she denies that this is using me.  She will "find another way" (find another man to use him also for his sperm, and commit adultery against me.) I wd only have consented to another child if it was produced out a loving and caring relationship in which we remain together as a loving and caring family, and I as the father I am raising my own children. This is the "bigger picture". Am I to be expected to give sperm artificially to create another baby whom I will be deprived of?

She has taken my son Asher away from me (see also Asher.Africa) and she uses him as a weapon against me. She uses the police as a threat because in Canada all a woman has to do is call the police with a false accusation and the police automatically arrest him and he goes to jail.

On Jan 2d on voice chat my son told me "daddy come back" which broke my heart because how can I explain to him what is happening when he was only 3 years and 9 months old at that time? (I did not leave my son but was forced out by her threats and extortion). I am not allowed to talk with my son any more. I have created this website in defense of my son, who has been deprived of his father, and he cannot protest. As his father it is my duty to speak out for him and defend him. I love my son and it hurts me much to have him taken out of my life, and he is hurting also because of this. He also loves, needs, and misses his father. She is living under the delusion that she owns my son like shd wd own a bicycle. I have suffered much emotional pain and suffering as a result of her taking my son away from me. 

She loves the idea of court because judges are heavily biased against men and favour women. I refuse to submit to any court regarding my family. My family is not the property of any government or court. I only went thru with the legal "marriage" because it was a requirement to bring her to Canada. 

She has committed theft of my property which she had at her place and which she refuses to allow me to access. (if it is even all there any more)

My position has been consistent right from the start in that it is wrong to break up a family, and that when a man and woman make a commitment, they need to keep it. (I am not here referring to a "legal commitment" of "marriage", which in reality does not exist. I am referring to a moral commitment and obligation. A commitment is a commitment is a commitment. I have never once even suggested the possibility of leaving her. The issue here is that of maturity and responsibility. It is a serious thing to make a commitment to someone of the opposite sex. If we are not honest about it and have the right motives, and do not intend to keep it, then we shd not have made that commitment in the first place.

In the following example the circumstances are different, but the principle involved is the same. Try borrowing money from a bank then unilaterally deciding that you want to break the commitment to pay it back, and see what happens! Yet people do not take seriously the commitment that they make to the opposite sex, and they avoid their responsibility to follow thru with it. The fact is that they were not commited in the first place. They cannot blame anyone else for this, any more than someone can blame the bank for not paying back the loan. It's an issue of honesty, responsibility, maturity, integrity, and motives.

The common understanding of marriage is wrong. In reality marriage does not exist. Let me explain: Supposing that I get a loan from the bank, then later I go to a judge and ask him to cancel my commitment to pay back the money. Of course a judge will not do this, yet courts do this for marriage to allow people to avoid their commitments. A marriage cannot exist because if it can be voided, then there is nothing binding it together and therefore it cannot exist, any more than a loan agreement can exist if it is not binding and a judge can simply void it. Banks wd stop borrowing money. The legitimacy of the coming together of a man and woman is in reality based purely on the honesty, character, integrity, maturity, and responsibility of each. 

When anyone breaks a commitment they have no one to blame but themselves, despite hiding behind excuses or legal "reasons". A judge can declare that a woman can murder her baby, but does that make it right? A judge can declare that at school dances (as in the case now in Canada) that a boy can dance with a boy and a girl dance with a girl, and that a man can marry a man and a woman marry a woman, but does that make it right? We have to get away from this idea that anything that is legal is also right, and that the courts are "God's servants" which is a wrong teaching of Christianity (read Romans chapter 13). Courts are used to rubber stamp wrong doing and to justify evil.

In this case what Chipo had done against me and Asher is wrong, but to appease her guilty conscience and attemp to quell the cognitive dissonance within her she seeks the approval of the court and her like-minded friends who share the same wrong mindset, and as a group they regurgitate the same fallacies to keep propogating the same mindset, and must avoid any outside influence that may "upset the apple cart" lest they be confronted with a reality check. A closed circuit mindset tends to grow worse due to feeding on itself until the methods used to protect it and propogate it within the group become more extreme. It is a downward spiral. Deep in her heart she knows that what she has done and is doing is wrong. She is fighting against herself. The wisest thing for her to do is to come clean and be honest with herself and others, find refuge in the truth. Only then will she have peace in her heart. Please assist me by contacting Chipo and encouraging her to do what is right. 

If you are in Zambia, please further assist me by letting her family know that they shd encourage Chipo to do what is right. They are based on the family farm (headed by Chipo's mother Jane (Chilinda) Siamafuwa which is a 1 hectare farm just off the highway a few miles south of Kafue. It is past Chita Lodge, going south, and on the left hand side, not on, but close to the highway. It is immediately on the other side of the power lines, and is near the Kafue Boys School (on the south/southwest side of it). You can also contact Chipo by email csiamafuwa@yahoo.com, by phone (country code 001) 780 531 7603 and encourage her to do what is right. She is also on Whats App, IMO, (she may change her phone number, WhatsApp, IMO, and Facebook accounts after this.) She is employed at Bethel Happy Day Care: info@bethelhappydaycare.com

Update: As it appears that she may have changed her Whats App and Facebook accounts, you can try IMO or her place of employment, or her email. 

Your help is appreciated. Thank you!

As my son had his 4th birthday on April 24, 2024, I have been denied the blessing of being with him for this, and I was not allowed to send him a birthday gift because I am not even told where he (they) are staying. It's the "golden rule": He who has the gold makes the rules. 

To my surprise I was allowed to video chat with Asher yesterday, June 16, (today is Father's Day) which was the first time in 3 months, yet other than this I know nothing of what goes on in his life, and still do not know where he is. I am still otherwise blocked out of his life. I am told nothing about him. 

This website is about a father standing up for and defending his son. I will never cease to defend Asher, who is suffering the worst in all this.